Counselling and Psychotherapy for Attachment styles in North London and Online 

Psychoanalyst John Bowlby first introduced the idea of different "attachment styles". He proposed three different styles of attachment; secure, anxious and avoidant. It wasn't until later that a fourth style was introduced, this being the disorganised attachment.  Attachment styles are usually determined by our relationships with our care givers as children; however significant e3xperinces as adults can effect our attachment style. For example, we could have a very secure attachment style throughout childhood, but as as adult develop an anxious attachment style due to significant experiences that have made a profound effect. 

I have completed a number of courses on attachment, including workshops at the Bowlby Centre. 

How do attachment styles effect us?

(The below is a very basic outline of how attachment styles may effect some of us)

  • Those with anxious attachment often causes a fear of abandonment and rejection as well as low self esteem and high anxiety within relationships.

  • People with avoidant attachment can be avoidant of close relationships, struggle to verbalise their emotional needs and be very critical of others. 

  • People lucky enough to have secure attachment ordinarily have secure relationships; thus meaning that they generally feel secure in relationships in the sense they rarely feel jealous, anxious or insecure and are able to maintain healthy boundaries. 

  • Those with a disorganised attachment style are usually inconsistent in their behaviour and quite often distrustful of others. 

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How can Counselling and Psychotherapy help with attachment styles?

Therapy can be extremely helpful way of ensuring your attachment style does not override or cause problems in your relationships. When focusing on your attachment style in Counselling and Psychotherapy, it can help you:

 

  • Establish what type of attachment style you have 

  • Work on how you can establish a more secure attachment style

  • Regulate your emotions 

  • Manage relationship issues such as conflict 

  • Explore how you developed your particular type of attachment style.

  • Overcome certain attachment patterns  

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If you would like Counselling and Psychotherapy in North London and Online for attachment styles please contact me